"What I Think You Think"

Thoughts From The "Original" Mike Smith
Points to remember from Mike’s presentations

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-Mike, the “Original”

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Deciding not to decide is a decision to let others make those choices for us but it does not relieve us of the responsibility. Life is about GROWING, regardless of age.

Help When You Need To Decide

If it’s not illegal, immoral or fattening
And
It won’t hurt anyone or anything
And
You might learn a thing you didn’t know you didn’t know,
Then
You might as well give it a shot
And
Find another way to grow!

Fear of failing is one of our biggest “hold-me-backs.”

On Failing

“Failing” is an acronym for life and learning – both
It’s Finding An Important Lesson Inviting Needed Growth.
It’s just a road to learning.

We are all creatures of habit who talk to ourselves and we have a lot in common regardless of age, gender, ethnicity, or religion and we must communicate to make it work.

That’s Not What You Think I Thought

It’s not what I think and it’s not what you think.
It’s what I think you think and you think I think
That tends to cause us to think
What we think, we think. I think.

And have you noticed what we think others think often turns out to be wrong.
‘Cause they don’t think about what we think their thinking all that often or that long.
So maybe it is good advice to talk with them and hear what they think
They’re thinking just to make OUR thinking clear.

WORDS MATTER because we learn and think based upon our understanding of words.  It works like this:

Onboard Chip

There is inside my very head,
a chip programmed by things I’ve said.
It records my every thought and deed
and forms my every wish and need.

Habits learned and burned into
my chip create what I can do.
My vision filters through a glass
made from memories of my past.

In daily choices my chip seems
to limit me to my past dreams.
It blocks new things that come my way
and leaves me with my yesterday.

But, at last, today I see,
I am in charge of the chip in me.
And since I program that chip of mine,
I can change ME anytime.

I can decide to reprogram
and build a better WHO I AM.
Here’s a little thoughtful little tip:
You too have an on board chip.

Choose your thoughts and words with care;
the future YOU building there.
(Watch your mouth, watch your mind!)

 

The “Original” Mike Smith (c) 2000 All rights reserved

Then our thoughts determine our destiny because of this:

How Things Work

The WORDS I often THINK and USE
create my THOUGHTS and ATTITUDES,
and build the ACTIONS from which I CHOOSE
to FORM the HABITS so HARD to LOSE,
HIGHLIGHTING the CHARACTER others see
and THEY decide that THAT is ME,
and THAT is all THEY LET ME BE,
and thus is BUILT my DESTINY.

Your words matter.  Choose them well.  They define you for the world! 

The “Original” Mike Smith (c) 2014 All rights reserved

We are social animals- Our success will be earned in a great part by how well we collaborate (work jointly on an activity) with others.  With that in mind, social skills become vital to our future regardless of age.  Our face and eye contact are billboards of who you are.  Remember: Your face is your fault. Smile! Spread the happiness because “you can only reap (harvest) what you sow (plant).” Watch how your smile causes others to smile back.  It’s amazing.   

Smile

I know it isn’t easy when things look bleak and dark
to curl your lips and tell your eyes it’s time for them to SPARK!

But SMILING on the outside will warm your inside so
Your SMILE will make another smile and then two smiles will glow

So through life’s troubles ride, behind a smiling face.
Just SMILE and pass it warmly on, you’ll make a better place. 

The “Original” Mike Smith (c) 1987 All rights reserved

Smiling and eye contact need to be developed into habits.  Don’t forget “How can I help?” is the attitude that leads us to the top of any endeavor.

Know the greeting customs/traditions where you are. There are many different cultural norms in many different countries.  Be aware of where you are and how to best demonstrate that you care and respect other traditions.  In the business and education world of the USA, the handshake is the traditional. Use it.

Handshake Reminders in the USA

Smile
Extend your hand
Turn your exposed “webbie” (hand web) thumb slightly left
Press webs
Grip firmly
Establish good eye contact
Shake two or three times
Read the name tag or offer your name

Remember:
Today is the single most educational experience of your life…
until tomorrow!

Self-talk tips:

Make Good Choices Right Now!

In life we are constantly mentally choosing our next action or reaction.  We choose from words or phrases that are either negative or the positive.  Our emotions can often interfere with our judgement. To avoid negative choose your preferred path now before you are in stressful situations. Here is a beginning list.  Review these choices and make the positive ones part of your actions instead of reactions to life’s situations.  Build a bigger list A.S.A.P.

The Positive (+)

Always smile if possible

Look for what is good

Offer a hug

Always count to ten

Walk away

First listen to learn

Look for the humorous

Seek to lift up

Act towards a goal

Look for solutions

Look to support

Look for blessings

Be calm

Look for lessons

See positive change

The Negative (-)

Show no emotion

Look for what is bad

Be prepared to hit

Emotionally blow up

Move to attack

Speak only to impress

Look for what hurts you

Seek to tear down

React without thinking

Look for problems

Look to condemn

Look for pain providers

Be angry

Fear failing

Try to stay the same

15 Follow-up Questions

These are offered to stimulate group discussion following the “Original” Mike Smith presentation.  Pick a few.  See what you remember and think.

 

  1. Why do you think Mike talked so fast at first?
  2. Was it what you expected?
  3. Did he keep talking fast?
  4. Did you jump in and participate right away or did you begin to participate later?
  5. Why did you participate at all?  Why didn’t you?
  6. Who controls what we say to ourselves?  Can what we say to ourselves be controlled? (Make Good Choices, Right Now)
  7. Are we creatures of habit? Can we change a habit?
  8. Name three good habits and two bad ones?
  9. What things do humans have in common?  See how many we can list.
  10. Do we really have choices about our attitudes?
  11. How does that “words to thoughts to attitudes to actions  to habits to character to destiny work?  Is that about reputation?
  12. Why should we smile for 21 days?  Does it do any good? Why or why not?
  13. Are we each really unique?  What makes us so since we have so much in common?
  14. How is this day, the single most important educational experience of your life?
  15. What role do we each play in our own continuing education?

And, if you want to change your world…

…learn why and how words matter!
Check out Mike’s PowerPoint presentation 
Languaging for Leadership!

Rhymes

In Support of Thoughts by The “Original” Mike Smith

It's Not What You Think I Thought
It’s not what you think and it’s not what I think.
It’s what I think you think and you think I think
That tends to cause us to think what we think, they think.

I think. Don’t you?

And have you noticed what we think their thinking
Often turns out to be wrong.
‘Cause they don’t think about us all that often
Or that long.

So maybe it is good advice
To talk with them to hear
What they think they are  thinking
Just to make the thinking clear.

Not Know'n

Not know’n stuff you should, can bring you to no good
But as a general rule, you’ll be twice as big a fool
For know’n that you know, stuff that just ain’t so.

My Creed

Today I’ll do those countless things that others will not do
So that tomorrow I can choose from things they cannot do.

You see, I am the only me there is and now what I must do
Is be the best ME I can be by what I choose to do.

Of Decisions

One can choose TO DO a deed, and TO LIKE that doing done
Or TO DO a deed and HATE that doing, but that’s not really fun.

And some can choose NOT TO DO the thing, and TO LIKE that choice they say.
While others choose NOT TO DO the thing, and NOT TO LIKE it “that a way.”

So from the four, we each must choose, as down life’s path we go
TO DO or NOT, TO LIKE or NOT, as by now I’m sure you know.

Do yourself a favor here, CHOOSE from the LIKING two.
CHOOSE “DO” or “DON’T” but LIKE the CHOICE, You know IT’S UP TO YOU!

And so with your CHOICES thus defined, your task is simplified.
But deciding not to CHOOSE my friend, is clearly to decide

So make the best of what you CHOOSE.  The CHOICE to you must fall.
Best of luck in what YOU DO, YOU have the FINAL CALL.

Failing

“Failing” is an acronym for life and learning – both
It’s Finding An Important Lesson Inviting Needed Growth.
So, set out in life, my friend, to see what you can learn.
For the timid soul so seldom gets, what the braver soul doth earn,
By fearing NOT the “slings and arrows” of fortune in outrage,
And bravely stepping out in life, to turn another page.
By boldly going where few have gone with head held high and straight,
To face their fears and learn new things, while the timid sit and wait.

Wait not! Risk Wisely! Learn Much.

Onboard Chip

There is inside my very head
a chip programmed by things I’ve said.
It records my every thought and deed
and forms my every wish and need.

Habits learned and burned into
my chip create what I can do.
My vision filters through a glass,
made from memories of my past.

In daily choices my chip seems
to limit me to my past dreams.
It blocks new things that come my way
and leaves me with my yesterday.

But, at last, today I see,
I am in charge of the chip in me.
And since I program that chip of mine,
I can change ME anytime.

I can decide to reprogram
and build a better WHO I AM.
Here’s a little thoughtful little tip –
You too have an on board chip.

Choose your thoughts and words with care,
the future YOU building there.

 (Watch your mouth, watch your mind!)

To Do or Not To Do

So, here’s a plan that helps me when I find myself in doubt.
I ask these simple questions and the decision jumps right out.

If it’s neither fattening nor illegal and it’s morally “OK,”
And if no thing or no person could get hurt in any way,

And if I just might learn a thing or two I did not know,
And in the process of the “doing find a better way to go,

Then I decide to jump right in, and give it all of me.
For in that “giving” I find the new “who I choose to be.”

But if the answer’s “no” to any question that I ask,
I don’t allow peer pressure to make me perform a task.

Because I know the “who I am” knows better than the crowd
And following my good advice will make my loved ones “PROUD.”

How Things Work

The WORDS I often THINK and USE
Create my THOUGHTS and ATTITUDES,
and build the ACTIONS from which I CHOOSE,
to FORM the HABITS so HARD to LOSE,
HIGHLIGHTING the CHARACTER others see
and THEY decide that THAT is ME,
and THAT is all THEY LET ME BE,
and thus is BUILT my DESTINY.

Your words matter.  Choose them well.  They define you for the world!

Can't Yet
“I can’t” is not a phrase for me.
It’s not the goal that I will see
for I determine what will be.
If I by accident forget
and say “I can’t” then it’s a bet
that I will quickly add a YET!
There’s nothing here that I CAN’T do.
I know my dreams can all come true.
“CAN’T YET” IS WHAT I CHOOSE TO DO!
Smile

I know it isn’t easy when things look bleak and dark
to curl your lips and tell your eyes it’s time for them to SPARK!
But SMILING on the outside will warm your inside so
Your SMILE will make another smile and then two smiles will glow.
So through life’s daily ups and downs show forth a smiling face.
Just SMILE and pass it warmly on, you’ll make a better place.

Number One Rule for Success

When Life seems like a minefield, choices full of do’s and don’ts;
Punctuated now and then with various wills and won’ts
And you’re looking for THE ANSWER, ‘cause you know it’s up to you
It isn’t always easy, it might hurt a time or two
But it’s really very simple. DO WHAT YOU SAY YOU’LL DO!

Get To

Seldom do we have a choice in what life sends our way,
But what we choose to see in it, now there we have a say.

When life is getting tedious and your future’s looking bleak,
Give your attitude a jolt through the words you choose to speak.

Changing HAVE TO’s into GET TO’s is what it’s all about.
Creating what the future holds by how YOU talk things out!

Life's Not Always Just Nor Fair

Now here’s a little truth I’ll share, “Life’s not always just or fair.”
You’ll have your ups and downs, that’s true, but staying down is up to you.

So if you’re knocked about a bit, stumble and fall but never quit.
Stand back up, that’s what you do ‘cause staying down is up to you.

Face the forces of despair and smile them down without a care.
You are in charge there is no doubt, success is how YOU work things out.

So “fair” or “not” is not the fret. It’s what you do with what you get.
The message here is always true, “It’s not what happens. It’s what you do.”

Blaming

Pointing the finger of blame requires the curling back of three.
Its nature’s way of pointing out the blame must rest with me.
Now that is not a bad thing as you can plainly see.
For if the blame is mine alone so must the credit be.

KC's Prayer

Thank you, God, for this great day
And all the things that came my way.
And with tomorrow’s coming light
Help me to always do what’s right.
Please help me walk in happy shoes
And learn from every path I choose.
The lessons that are there for me
To be the best me I can be.
So when I lay me down to rest,
We’ll know I’ve done my very best.

Good Enough

All too often “good enough” is where the “weak hearts” stop.
It keeps the very best of them from rising to the top.

“Enough” implies just getting by and “good” falls short of best.
So “good enough” is average stuff and seldom meets the test.

But you don’t have to settle there. You have what it takes
Push yourself to do your best, it’s how you get the “breaks.”

Remember that the choice is yours and you alone choose either
Those who shine are those who know that “good enough” is neither!

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